I
Disconnection & Rejection
Domain 1 · 5 schemas
1
Abandonment / Instability
Fear that those you love will leave or be unpredictable
I worry a great deal that the people I love will die or leave me.
I cling to people close to me because I'm afraid they'll leave me.
I need so much love and support from others that people get tired of
giving it to me.
I feel that people won't stay with me — they will eventually leave me
for someone better.
People who were close to me have been unpredictable — one moment they
were there, the next they were gone.
2
Mistrust / Abuse
Expectation of being hurt, abused, or manipulated
I feel that people will take advantage of me if I let them.
I feel that I cannot let my guard down around other people, or they
will intentionally hurt me.
I feel that people will take advantage of me.
Throughout my life, people close to me have abused, used, or
humiliated me.
It's only a matter of time before someone betrays me, even in a close
relationship.
3
Emotional Deprivation
Belief that emotional needs will never be adequately met
I haven't had anyone to nurture me, share themselves with me, or care
deeply about what happens to me.
For most of my life, I haven't had someone who wanted to be close to
me and spend time with me.
For the most part I have not had someone who really listened to me,
understood me, or tuned in to my true needs and feelings.
I rarely have a person who gives me warmth and is affectionate toward
me.
I don't feel that people have been there to guide, support, or
protect me.
4
Defectiveness / Shame
Feeling flawed, inferior, or fundamentally unlovable
No man/woman I desire could love me once he/she saw my defects.
I am inherently flawed and defective — no one would want me if they
really knew me.
I'm unworthy of the love, attention, and respect of others.
I feel that I'm not loveable.
I feel like I'm different from other people — I don't really belong
anywhere.
5
Social Isolation / Alienation
Feeling apart from the rest of the world
I feel alienated from other people.
I feel isolated and alone in the world.
I don't fit in anywhere.
I always feel on the outside of groups.
Although I'm around people, I feel like a stranger.
II
Impaired Autonomy & Performance
Domain 2 · 4 schemas
6
Dependence / Incompetence
Belief that one cannot handle daily responsibilities without help
I don't feel capable of managing day-to-day responsibilities on my
own.
I think of myself as a very dependent person.
I need other people to help me manage my daily life.
I'm not confident in my ability to solve everyday problems that come
up.
I don't trust my own judgment enough to make important decisions
without significant input from others.
7
Vulnerability to Harm or Illness
Exaggerated fear of imminent catastrophe
I worry that I'm about to lose all my money and become impoverished.
I worry about being attacked.
I worry a lot that I have, or will get, a serious illness, even
though nothing serious has been diagnosed by a doctor.
I feel that a major catastrophe (natural, criminal, financial,
medical) could strike at any time.
I cannot escape the feeling that something bad is about to happen.
8
Enmeshment / Undeveloped Self
Excessive emotional involvement with others at the expense of identity
I have not been able to separate myself from my parents the way other
people my age seem to.
I often feel as if my parent or partner is living through me — like I
don't have a life of my own.
I am very close to a parent or partner and we are so involved with
each other that it creates problems for both of us.
It's hard for me to keep my views separate from those of my parent(s)
or partner.
I often feel that I don't know who I am or what I want.
9
Failure
Belief that one has failed or will inevitably fail
I am basically a failure when it comes to achievement.
Most people are more capable than I am in areas of work and
achievement.
I was a failure as a student.
I feel that I am not as successful as others my age.
I feel that I don't have the natural talent that most people have at
their jobs.
III
Impaired Limits
Domain 3 · 2 schemas
10
Entitlement / Grandiosity
Belief of being superior and entitled to special rights
I have trouble accepting "no" for an answer when I want something
from other people.
I'm special and shouldn't have to accept the restrictions other
people do.
I hate to be constrained or kept from doing what I want.
I feel that I shouldn't have to follow the normal rules that apply to
others.
I feel that what I have to offer is of greater value than the
contributions of others.
11
Insufficient Self-Control / Self-Discipline
Difficulty tolerating frustration or controlling impulses
I can't seem to make myself do what I need to do to reach my goals.
I have a lot of difficulty tolerating frustration — things must
happen now.
I find myself unable to stop myself from expressing negative feelings
when they upset me.
It's difficult for me to begin new tasks if I find them boring or
routine.
If I can't reach a goal, I become easily frustrated and give up.
IV
Other-Directedness
Domain 4 · 3 schemas
12
Subjugation
Surrendering control to others to avoid negative consequences
I let others control me more than I should.
I'm too passive, waiting for things to happen rather than making them
happen.
People end up controlling me.
I have always let others make choices for me, so I really don't know
what I want for myself.
I feel that I have no choice but to give in to other people's wishes,
otherwise they will retaliate or reject me in some way.
13
Self-Sacrifice
Excessive focus on meeting others' needs at one's own expense
I'm the one who usually ends up taking care of the people I'm close
to.
I'm a good person because I think of others more than myself.
I'm so busy doing for the people I care about that I have little time
for myself.
I sacrifice my own needs for those of the people I care about.
I often feel that there is not enough time for me to meet my own
needs, because I am always taking care of the needs of others.
14
Approval-Seeking / Recognition-Seeking
Excessive reliance on others' reactions for self-esteem
My self-esteem depends a great deal on what others think of me.
I go out of my way to be liked by others.
I need to be seen as accomplished or important by the people around
me.
I try to do my best in order to get approval from others.
It's very important to me to be liked by a wide range of people.
V
Overvigilance & Inhibition
Domain 5 · 4 schemas
15
Negativity / Pessimism
Pervasive focus on negative aspects while minimizing the positive
I focus on the negative aspects of things.
I can't get my mind off of things that might go wrong.
It's all right to be happy one moment, but the next moment things
could go wrong.
I tend to be a pessimist, always expecting the worst.
One of my biggest fears is that things will go terribly wrong for me
in the future.
16
Emotional Inhibition
Suppression of emotions to avoid loss of control or embarrassment
I find it embarrassing to express my feelings to others.
I find it hard to be warm and spontaneous.
I control myself so much that people think I am unemotional.
I feel that I must keep my feelings inside and not show them to
others.
Others see me as uptight emotionally.
17
Unrelenting Standards / Hypercriticalness
Striving to meet extremely high self-imposed standards
I must be the best at most of what I do; I can't accept second best.
I strive to keep everything in perfect order.
I must look my best most of the time.
I have so much to accomplish that there is no time to really relax.
Almost nothing I do is quite good enough — I can always do better.
18
Punitiveness
Belief that people deserve harsh punishment for mistakes
I believe if you make a mistake, you deserve to be punished.
I have very little patience for people who make excuses for their bad
behavior — they deserve to be punished.
I am a very demanding person — I feel that people should be punished
for their mistakes.
I find it very difficult to forgive mistakes in myself or others.
I expect people to pay dearly for their errors.
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